this is something that i've noticed pretty recently, but a lot of people think that they can only like or do something if it aligns with what happens to be trending at the moment, to the point where they ask it to be the next big trend. i dont think there's anything wrong with liking things that are trending at all- popular things become popular for a reason! but there's a lot of people who force themselves to like or enjoy popular things to fit in. im gonna be honest, there's been a recent shift in trends being determined more by companies and influencers than by the people themsleves. it's high time that the next big trend be to be yourself!

obviously, the problem with learning how to be yourself is that there's no perfect guide to it. what i will say is: start looking for new interests. go to your local library and look for books on things that pique your interest- new hobbies, random topics, anything. if you still have a DVD player lying around, you can check out a movie youve never seen and watch it over the weekend. experiment with fashion- what colors or accessories do you like best? instead of trying to find a label that fits your style, think about whether or not you like wearing it. if you're planning on it, dye your hair- this video has more budget-friendly suggestions! if it's been something you've been wanting to do, get a tattoo or piercing- sure, they might cost money, but fake piercings and tattoo markers are cheaper options!!

inevitably, people will start to be upset with you if you aren't fitting in to whatever box they had in mind for you. when this happens, it's important to ask yourself: "is the way i choose to live hurting myself or others?" if it isnt, and someone's still mad, then it's a sign you're doing something right- and that's when you have to stand your ground. part of the reason movements that emphasize the freedom of self expression due out so quickly is because shitty people will neg others out of it. this is an important thing you're gonna have to learn to say: "you don't have to understand or agree with the way i exist, but if you aren't going to be respectful about it, then i'm not going to keep talking to you." many people who like to force their own opinions and lifestyles on others aren't ready to hear that their behavior will end up driving others away, so you should let them know it will early on.

lastly, this is where many people start to forget what self expression and authenticity is all about: remind yourself that you can't control what others do. if someone is doing something that you might dislike or disagree with, it's important to remember that not liking something doesnt make it "wrong." if they arent hurting anyone or themselves, then it's best to move on and leave them be, and if they are, it's better to give a three-strike policy- try and push them in the right direction, but if it doesnt stick, just leave them to it. as much as you might want to help them, some people dont want to be helped, and it's better to put your energy somewhere where it isnt wasted. to conclude, live and let live, and help when it's wanted.

i know my page barely gets any attention, but im hoping this blog inspires some people to enter a new era: an era where the norm is authenticity, and the biggest trend expressing yourself.
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